I'm going to start with a quote that might piss you off.
But trust me, I'm going somewhere with this.
It's by Jack Canfield, the Co-Creator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul Series, multi-millionaire, and Success Coach:
You're never really stuck. You're just creating the same experiences over and over again.
You may have to read that one more time. Go ahead, I'll wait.
This quote is pure brilliance, but I know it might be painful.
Because you might read it, throw your phone/laptop and scream, "EXCUSE ME?? YOU THINK I'M CREATING THESE CRAPPY EXPERIENCES???!"
That's pretty much what I did when I first heard it.
We usually believe, especially in Hollywood, that the reason we aren't moving forward is someone else's fault. Like the industry's. Or an agent's. Or anyone else we can think of.
Because we've heard a million times that it's going to be hard to make it in Los Angeles. So we think it's normal when we find that it's hard.
We think we are stuck because we are supposed to be stuck. Because that's just how it is.
But the truth of the matter, is that we are solely responsible for our own destiny.
It really is US creating the same experiences over and over again.
The beautiful thing about this is that means we have the power to turn it around. We don't have to wait for the industry to do it for us.
If you're ready to take hold of that power, and finally see the massive Hollywood success that you deserve, then read on for my 4-Step system to do just that. I've broken each step into a separate article so it doesn't completely overwhelm you.
Step #1: UNLOCK THE CHAINS
Step 1 is the most important step, and you can't move forward until you've completed it. It is where the DEEP PROBLEMS lie that cause the surface symptoms that is your Hollywood struggle.
Unlock the Chains is your chance to unlock the chains that holding you where you are. Because YOU HAVE THE KEY. You are the only one able to free yourself.
The #1 reason people feel stuck in Hollywood (according to a survey I conducted), is FEAR and LIMITING BELIEFS.
Like I previously mentioned, most people think the #1 reason people get stuck is because of the industry not granting them success. But in reality, it's F-E-A-R.
Whenever you pursue something that is big and meaningful, you're going to have fears come up. These fears may come from you—the conversation you have in your mind from one negative belief to the next. Or it may come from other people—other people's stories that creep into your subconscious.
- I'm not good enough
- I"m not talented enough
- Only one in a million make it
- It's really hard to make it in Hollywood
- You're not good-looking enough
- You don't have what it takes
- It's like winning the lottery
Ever heard any of those?
It doesn't matter if it's coming from outside source, or from within. What matters is that you believe it to be true. Because the second you accept it as truth, even if it's in the back of your mind, it goes down into your subconscious. And your subconscious controls your actions.
So, even if you were told, "You'll probably never make it" a long time ago, if you secretly think it's true, or even if you outwardly say, "I will probably never make it but I'm going to try anyway!", that thought is controlling your actions. And when you believe a negative statement such as that, the actions you take will sabotage your career.
Oh, and this all happens unconsciously, so you probably don't even realize it's happening.
Whenever you have a belief in your subconscious, you seek out experiences to prove it true. So when you believe ,"I'll probably never make it", you will seek out experiences (i.e. situations in real life related to your career) to prove that statement to be true.
If you're currently taking actions in your career that aren't moving you forward, take a look at your fears and limiting beliefs. For example, let's say you dream of being an actor, and you took a full time job working in a production company that has you working 9-5. When you took this job, you thought it would be a great opportunity to feel like you were working in the industry, and making connections. And hey, maybe one day they will hire you to act in one of their productions! -- It's this thought process of validating an action, that is run by the subconscious. The main way to get from acting dream to "Actor", is auditioning. And you can't audition regularly if you're working a 9-5 job. So it may start to feel like you're hitting a brick wall, like you're not moving forward in your acting dreams. And while the decision to work at the production company came had good intentions behind it, it ultimately blocks you from achieving your dream, hence, proving this statement of "I'll probably never make it" to be true.
The best way to unlock these chains, is to CHANGE your story. Swap out those negative beliefs for new, positive ones. Create a story that says, "I'm going to live out my dream and it's going to be amazing!"
You have to toss out the Hollywood myths that have been fed to you, and replace them with positivity.
Hollywood Myth #1: LACK (There is not enough. It's a one-in-a-million chance)
Have you ever watched the credits after a movie? I'm talking about ALL the credits. There are usually 100 - 200 people who work on each film, from the actors to the PAs. While the PAs may not be living their true dreams yet, there are still 100s of people who are. And that's just on ONE film.
How many films are filmed at the same time? How many TV shows? A. FREAKING. LOT.
That means there are THOUSANDS of successful people working in Hollywood every day.
You have to change this myth from LACK to ABUNDANCE. There are an abundant amount of roles, scripts, opportunities. Why can't one (or several) be yours?
As long as you believe the lack, that's what you're going to get in your career.
As long as you believe in abundance, that's what you're going to get in your career.
People think that they got to the dock and missed their boat. But there is always another one coming.
- Abraham Hicks
No FOMO here. Your opportunities are endless.
Hollywood Myth #2: COMPETITION, COMPETITION, COMPETITION
This one stems from LACK. It tells you that everything is competition, and when you don't get a job, you feel crushed and immediately begin the self-doubt conversion: What did I do wrong? I must totally suck. I'll never make it.
The truth is that we are all on our own path. We each have our own journey that has nothing to do with our neighbor's.
Several years ago, I interviewed to be a PA on "Entourage."
I thought I was a shoe-in. I knew a bunch of people who worked on the show, so that job HAD to be mine!
But I didn't get the job. And I was devastated. And I started that self-doubt cycle.
Years later, I coincidentally became friends with the girl who got the job. It turns out, she is an amazing person, and great friend.
We talked about Entourage, and I found out the most helpful news: she actually met her husband on that show.
Holy crap! Me not getting that job had NOTHING to do with me. It had to do with her path. Her destiny. She HAD to work on that show to meet her husband. And all these years later, they are still happily married.
I was fine. I still found success working on over 20 television shows after that.
So you see, COMPETITION DOES NOT EXIST.
If it drives you, then use it as fuel.
But know that your path has nothing to do with your neighbor's, and there is enough success to go around. Your path to success might look different than you planned or thought—but it will still take you there in the most perfect way.
If you want to stop hitting those brick walls, you need to start by unlocking the chains. Let me know in the comments below, what other Hollywood myths you're fed up with, or what limiting beliefs have been holding you back.
You've got the key. Unlock those chains, baby.